The situation does not create the feeling. You create whatever feeling you wish to feel in each particular situation.
Why are some people happy and other people sad in the same circumstance? Because that is how they have chosen to be.
When you respond the same way often enough it becomes a habit that you follow without even thinking. In this way your feelings come to seem automatic, even though they never have to be.
The way you feel was at some point a conscious choice. And you can choose to change, or let go of, or expand what you feel, or to create an entirely new feeling.
The connection between the moment and the feeling is made by you.